How to Deal.....

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  1. Dieselpwrdredneck

    Dieselpwrdredneck Addicted2Diesel

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    Need some serious advice guys.... How do you deal with loosing one of the most important people in your life. The girl i gave my heart to and made plans to marry on Oct. 4 of 2008, walked out on me 2 months ago and it still seems like yesterday. I'm not the same, I never used to drink much, now I kill a bottle of Jack Daniels in under a week. any good advice, because I'm lost


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  2. Zookie400

    Zookie400 I WANNA GO FAST

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    GET A PUPPY.

    girls are rough dude....but there are plenty of good ones out there.
     
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    platinum01 Full Access Member

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    Sorry to hear that man. Women can make you or break you. I was married before and walked in on my wife with one of my shipmates from my Coast Guard Cutter. Gave her another chance and found out that she had been with more. So I started hitting the bottle just like you are now, but to tell you the truth there is no help in the bottom of that bottle. I am lucky that I had a dog/puppy because they don't judge the things you do and they are always there to pick your spirits with just a truck ride or a walk around the block. Then about a year later I found my wife now and everything that I went through before no longer matters. I live each day happy and thank full for my dog which got me this far and my wife. So even though it still hurts the pain will go away and you will know when the time is right. Good luck.
     
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    first and foremost stop drinkin. it will cloud your judgement and won`t help making the right decisions....i will try to make this short....10 years ago this past christmas, now my ex wife asked me for a divorce 2 days before christmas.
    it threw me for a loop, for quite awhile(3 years)....i thought having a few drinks(lots) would solve my problems, it usually made things worse....she was my high school sweetheart....so i know what you are going through(and i know this isn`t about me)....in my opinion, the best thing is to move forward(yes it will be hard)....keep a positive attitude and remember that it will get easier everyday(it will)...

    i wasted three years of my life(waiting for her to come back....:doh:)...now everybodies situation is little bit different....so the best advice i can give is stay positive, lay off the bottle and it helps to talk (you will find out who your best friends are, they will listen and offer advice)......i hope this helps some....best of luck.....also one last thing, you might not want to hear this right now, but there are more fish in the sea.....
     
  5. powerboatr

    powerboatr living well in Texas

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    yep dogs help
    they love you no matter what


    a wise man told me once to never get close enough to something or someone that you couldnt just walk away from at a moments notice, no strings or feelings. that makes for a lonley existence.




    that being said
    the right one will come in your life. stop looking so hard, get off the bottle and enjoy life and do some truck mods.

    shoot mine has kept me for 1/4 century now, and i wasnt looking :dunno
     
  6. Mike K

    Mike K يساعد المعركة لحرية

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    Drink to remember, not to forget.
     
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    kbud14 I will never learn

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    Drink to remember, smoke crack to forget.
     
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    As hard as it sounds, you are lucky. Marriage should be a lifetime commitment. She left before the commitment could be made. Obviously, it shows the type of person she is, and if it was me, I would not want to have to live with that type of person. There are plenty of wonderful women out there. They may not be the drop dead gorgeous babes that everyone automatically wants, but they may very well be the one that you can count on to be there when you get home from a bad day at work, and are willing to pick you up. YOu need to raise your standards to find that kind of woman.
     
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    THERE'S MANY MORE FISH IN THE OCEAN:sweet
     
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    F350DRW1 Waylon Fan

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    Jack, Jim, George, and Old Grandad ain't gonna help. Might lead you down a road its hard to turn off of.
     

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